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A wee bit gross. Read more... )

Weekly Check in August 20

Aug. 20th, 2017 01:08 pm
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Hey folks, it's been a busy week. Shout out to all the counter-protests that have seen huge turnouts where neo-nazi's have tried to get their message out. We have a lot of links and resources this week.

One bit of news is that our tag guru [personal profile] redbird is going to have limited internet time for the next week or so. That means it may take a bit longer than the usual super-speedy service for your posts to be tagged and new tags added. (Remember: you can always add existing tags to your posts yourselves.)

Housekeeping (the usual stuff)
Reminder that we have a suggestion post if there’s a topic that you’d like to see discussed but would like to ask the mods to look into. This can be anything from general information, or a how-to-do-a-thing, or something you may want to discuss as a community. Folks are welcome to post directly to the comm as always, but if you’re not comfortable/don’t have spoons, we can help too.

As we don't always get the time to pull things out of the suggestions post into their own separate posts, it may be worth checking every week (or tracking the post) to see if there's any new information you're interested in.

Also if you need help with tags, PM [personal profile] redbird, who is our tag guru.

Ongoing actions and activities
Sunday August 20 Ready to Resist call
Asssorted Charlottesville resource links
Indivisible have made a map - counter protests
Charlottesville - where to donate money
Petition: stop Trump from pardoning Joe Arpaio
"Restricting First Use of Nuclear Weapons Act"
Day of Action: Defend DACA
PFAW Fact Sheets for Recess
Friends of the Earth Call Script for NAFTA
Women's Convention Detroit October 27-29

Solidarity with Charlottesville - find or plan a community event to show you're standing with the people in Charlottesville who put themselves at risk to fight against white supremacy.
Find every election you're eligible to vote in with the EveryElection app
Town Halls: Congress is in recess, so find out when (if!) your representatives are holding town halls at Town Hall Project
Recess toolkits from MoveOn.org and Indivisible (check the comments)

So, what have you all been up to in the last week or are planning to get involved in next week?

Poll #18720 weekly check in
Open to: Registered Users, detailed results viewable to: All, participants: 14


This week I...

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called my one senator
3 (27.3%)

called my other senator
3 (27.3%)

called my representative
2 (18.2%)

called my governor
1 (9.1%)

called my state reps
0 (0.0%)

sent a postcard/email/letter/fax
1 (9.1%)

attended a town hall
0 (0.0%)

donated money to a cause
8 (72.7%)

attended an in-person activist group
1 (9.1%)

participated in phone/online training
2 (18.2%)

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went to a protest
5 (38.5%)

signed up for alerts
1 (7.7%)

took care of myself
6 (46.2%)

not a US citizen but worked in solidarity in my own community
2 (15.4%)

did something else
3 (23.1%)

committed to action in the coming week
3 (23.1%)



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[personal profile] cereta posting in [community profile] agonyaunt
Dear Amy: My daughter and son-in-law are expecting their first child. My husband has a granddaughter, but this will be MY first grandchild. My husband and I have been together for more than 16 years and have helped raise each other’s children.

I love his granddaughter and I don’t want her feelings to be hurt by announcing on social media that I am expecting my first grandchild. She is 8 years old and knows that I am her father’s stepmother, but I still don’t want to hurt her. Whenever she comes over, my husband and I both spoil her (like grandparents should), but she has always favored her “Papa.”

The problem for me is that I am much younger than my husband, and I didn’t want my social media friends to think that I was old enough to have an 8-year-old grandchild.

How can I say that I am expecting my first grandchild without making her feel like she doesn’t count?

— Grandma to Be

Dear Grandma: I appreciate your sensitivity about this situation, but I have news for you — you are already a “Grandma.” You have been one for the past eight years, and for you to try to find a way to deny this now that you are about to have a “real” grandchild in your life is all about your own vanity.

Your young granddaughter wouldn’t be the only person surprised (and possibly hurt) by the revelation that she isn’t your grandchild. Her parents, especially the parent you “helped to raise,” would likely be quite wounded.

I could also venture a guess that the reason your granddaughter has always favored her “Papa” is because you are signaling to her in a variety of ways that she is a placeholder for the real grandchild who will someday come along and claim your heart.

I became a grandmother quite young — at least it seemed so at the time, because I wasn’t prepared for this life stage. But family comes to you in different ways and at different times, whether or not you’re ready (or “old enough”) for it.

And so now the thing to do is to take to social media to announce your joy at the birth of your second grandchild.
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I saw this today and it made me laugh (and cry, frankly, for the state of the country), so I thought others might be interested:

Robin Whetstone: A Bad Week to Be a Parent
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[personal profile] carthaginians posting in [community profile] poetry
they ask me to remember
but they want me to remember
their memories
and i keep on remembering
mine
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ACLU Petition: Stop Trump from pardoning Joe Arpaio

Points out that a pardon would represent an official endorsement and back-pat for systematic violations of the rights of people of colour.
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It should be pretentious and snobbish to say: “Sure I eat hot dogs, I have homemade mustard and homemade lingonberry ketchup on it”. Then to take the DIY philosophy serious you have to make the hot dog yourself.

Context sounds delicious!

Hymns by Sherman Alexie

Aug. 18th, 2017 07:24 pm
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[personal profile] taiga13 posting in [community profile] poetry
Published August 16, 2017 in response to recent events in the United States

Why do we measure people's capacity
To love by how well they love their progeny?

That kind of love is easy. Encoded.
Any lion can be devoted

To its cubs. Any insect, be it prey
Or predator, worships its own DNA.

Like the wolf, elephant, bear, and bees,
We humans are programmed to love what we conceive... )
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[personal profile] rydra_wong posting in [community profile] thisfinecrew
(X-posted from my journal. Thanks to [personal profile] executrix and [personal profile] wendelah1 for pointing me towards some of these.)

Thanks to folks at [community profile] thisfinecrew for links, and links that led to other links among the following:

Solidarity Cville: Donate -- suggestions and links for local groups to support

Indivisble: Stand in Solidarity with Charlottesville - Find an Event

The Nation: Here’s What You Can Do After Charlottesville

Indivisible: Are Your Members of Congress Doing Enough to Respond to the Charlottesville Terrorist Attack? -- though this is several days old and therefore lacks a script for HOLY FUCK THE PRESIDENT IS DEFENDING NEO-NAZIS (EVEN MORE) WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO?

SPLC releases new edition of Ten Ways to Fight Hate guide after Charlottesville attack

Politico: GOP chairmen resist hearings on white supremacy

They don't want it. Demand it.

[tumblr.com profile] plaidadder: Three Democratic members of the House have introduced a censure resolution.

You can read the text here.

Censure is a formal reprimand. It is not legally binding, but it is rare, and Sends a Message. MoveOn.org originally organized around a campaign to get Congress to censure Clinton instead of impeaching him.

This may be an attempt to accomplish something less difficult than impeachment; or it may be a trial run to see how many Republicans are ready to jump from the Trump Train.


ETA: Politico: Pelosi endorses censure of Trump over Charlottesville response -- apparently at least 79 Democrats have signed.

Not directly Charlottesville-related, but interesting and could be worth asking your reps to support:

H.R.1987 - Oversight Commission on Presidential Capacity Act

To steal Wikipedia's explanation: "This bill would replace the Cabinet as the body that, together with the Vice President, determines whether Section 4 should be invoked. Under the bill, an eleven-member commission would conduct an examination of the President when directed to do so by a concurrent resolution of the Congress."

(Which, basically, shifts the power to forcibly 25th-Amendment the President back towards Congress to a greater degree, as opposed to depending entirely on the Cabinet which that President apppointed.)

ot: Huge Heyer Sale

Aug. 18th, 2017 10:26 am
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There's a huge sale on Georgette Heyer novels over on bn.com and amazon. Lots & lots of screens of e-books for 2.99 each.

Squee!

ot: Ursula Vernon in Iceland

Aug. 17th, 2017 10:31 am
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[personal profile] filkferengi posting in [community profile] vorkosigan
Ursula Vernon, who just won the Best Novelette Hugo, stopped in Iceland en route to WorldCon. She was with her husband Kevin, his cousin, Amy, & their friend Tina. They storified the trip, here:

https://storify.com/RebelsHeart/ursula-vernon-and-friends-vs-iceland

There're lots of gorgeous photos & great snark.

smalldeer has questions about apples

Aug. 17th, 2017 07:00 pm
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[personal profile] lilysea posting in [community profile] metaquotes
oh and a warm apple. like, a really warm apple. warmer than my teeth when i bit into it. no offense but. why. did they microwave this apple? did they store it in a dragon's mouth before allowing me to purchase it? did this apple recently return from a trip to the surface of the sun?

Context is the slings and arrows of working in the food service industry.

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[personal profile] lilysea posting in [community profile] agonyaunt

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My stepfather’s grandson’s wedding is black-tie optional, and my stepfather’s children are renting him a tux. My mom, who is 90, thought she would wear a nice pants outfit with a dressy jacket, and is resistant to buying something new. She has been through a lot this year (treatment for lymphoma, cancer surgery, and she recently fell and broke her pelvis, so she is in a lot of pain).

I and my three sisters (my mom’s only children) live on the opposite coast, but we are now being pressured by the mother of the groom (my stepfather’s daughter) and my stepfather to see that she is outfitted appropriately -- not just for the wedding, but also for the rehearsal dinner (cocktail attire) and the wedding breakfast to be held the day after the wedding.

They have also expressed concerns about the shoes my mother prefers (very safe, comfortable, but not at all dressy). My sister even heard my stepfather tell her that if she doesn’t get something new to wear, she can stay home and not attend the wedding or other events.

My mother doesn’t stand up for herself, unfortunately. Two of us will be traveling to see her soon, and plan to take her shopping. My sister is even purchasing a few things for my mom that she will bring with her, in the hopes that maybe something will fit and work for this event.

Personally, I think it is extremely superficial of them to dictate what she wears (especially since the wedding is six months from now!). If it were me, I would just be thrilled they are both well enough to attend, regardless of how they are dressed.

Is my mother wrong to resist the request to buy something more formal? Or should the step-family back off?

GENTLE READER: What happened to the “optional” part?

While Miss Manners always advocates dressing properly for the occasion -- and generally abhors “optional,” as it just invites chaos -- the particulars of your mother’s dress seem to be unduly fixated upon here. There is certainly a lot of undue angst being put into this poor woman’s wardrobe that seemingly requires three separate outfits and uncomfortable, possibly dangerous, shoes.

If your mother can reasonably be jollied into the shopping expedition or accepts one of your sister’s choices for one new outfit, fine. But if not, please talk to your stepfather about “backing off.” Surely this cannot really be worth all of this fuss.

PFAW Fact Sheets for Recess

Aug. 16th, 2017 07:05 pm
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People for the American Way has one-page fact sheets (great for tabling and canvassing!) about, e.g., the Mueller Russia investigation, voter suppression, separation of church and state, and opposing white supremacist hate:

http://act.pfaw.org/go/529?t=3&akid=126%2E3037677%2EcD6eBT

The site has lots of other tools and graphics too.

do you speak persian | kaveh akbar

Aug. 16th, 2017 10:53 pm
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Some days we can see Venus in mid-afternoon. Then at night, stars
separated by billions of miles, light travelling years

to die in the back of an eye.

Is there a vocabulary for this—one to make dailiness amplify
and not diminish wonder?

I have been so careless with the words I already have.

I don’t remember how to say home
in my first language, or lonely, or light.

I remember only
delam barat tang shodeh, I miss you,

and shab bekheir, goodnight.

How is school going, Kaveh-joon?
Delam barat tang shodeh.

Are you still drinking?
Shab bekheir.

For so long every step I’ve taken
has been from one tongue to another.

To order the world:
I need, you need, he/she/it needs.

The rest, left to a hungry jackal
in the back of my brain.

Right now our moon looks like a pale cabbage rose.
Delam barat tang shodeh.

We are forever folding into the night.
Shab bekheir.
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The Women's March organization is holding a convention in Detroit on October 27-29 (Friday-Sunday): "an inaugural conference that will bring thousands of women and femmes of all backgrounds" together for "three days of workshops, strategy sessions, inspiring forums and intersectional movement building." Base registration fee is $295 but there are scholarships available.

I C&Pd the registration link, if it doesn't work try womensmarch.com.

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/womens-march-presents-the-inaugural-womens-convention-2017-tickets-36830022589?link_id=1&can_id=8a862b6f2873206cd5111e31602e9c90&source=email-happy-mothers-day-thank-you-3-2-2-2-2-2-2-2-2-2-2-2&email_referrer=happy-mothers-day-thank-you-3-2-2-2-2-2-2-2-2-2-2-2&email_subject=announcing-the-womens-convention
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The "alt-right" (aka totally literal Nazis) will be rallying in multiple cities across America this Saturday and at various other times this month.

There doesn't seem to be any central clearing house of information, so if you'd like to join a counterprotest, I suggest googling with the name of your city. I did that and found that there is an alt-right protest in Los Angeles this Saturday (outside Google, to protest them firing the sexist employee), and a counterprotest which I will be joining. Details on my DW if you're in the area.

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